You ask, I'll answer: A monthly episode dedicated to listener questions

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Note: The transcript below may not be exactly the same as the podcast because it has not been edited for accuracy

So today's episode is going to be a little bit different because I'm setting up something new. And that's something new involves you.

Hello, and welcome. I'm Tara, the founder of raising resilient children. As a longtime educator, former preschool owner and parent, I have been working with caring adults and children for over 20 years. In that time, I've been asked a lot of questions and provided a lot of support and feedback. Through this, I built a system for navigating the hard and messy parts of parenting with clear paths that will support you and your unique family's needs. My expertise is in social emotional well being and I'm a big fan of using picture books. I even wrote one to support teaching children about emotional regulation called The Adventures of Team Brain. I know there is no cookie cutter approach to parenting and the information can be overwhelming. Let's tackle some of this by having some important conversations and digging into some different topics.

A couple of episodes ago, I shared how I've been a go to question answer for a really long time. And it's truly something I love doing. I love sort of taking your questions and sharing some ideas, often connecting it to a book to help support you with tackling that thing. So I want to do that here with you. I want to give you the opportunity to send in your questions. And I'll pick some of them to go live and talk about if I don't have the answer to your question. And I think it's something that would benefit from an expert. I'll go seek out an expert and see if they'll join me in a conversation around those questions. So that's one of the things that I'm setting up right now. And that means that I need you to head over to my website, taragratto.ca/podcast, and you have the opportunity to hit the question box. And in that question box, you can submit any type of question you want regarding parenting, raising resilient children developmental. I mean, there are so many things that I can imagine. I don't want to put too many limits on what you can ask me so that I can maybe explore some new and cool topics that you're not having the opportunity to hear anywhere else. So for today's episode, I thought I would give you an example of a question that I was asked yesterday. So yesterday, I was asked about grandparents giving too much stuff to kids. So I'm currently working with Tara Stuart, and we are going to be doing a whole bunch of things together around clutter and sort of identifying clutter and understanding how clutter is impacting your parenting play, things like that. So the question came in our IG stories about our IG live, what do we do about grandparents given too much stuff, right. And so one of the things that I talked about is how grandparents give stuff because that's how they show love, right? They love to give stuff. When they see the thing, it makes them think of the child, when they give this thing they like to witness the joy. And I think a lot of people maybe know that part. Now the part that is maybe lesser known and the thing that I know is successful in helping stop this stuff. And maybe replacing it with an experience gift, for example, is we have to help our parents grandparents understand that that's why they're doing it right and do and be able to offer them with a solution that's a replacement for sharing that love in the same way seeing the reactions in the same way. So in that in that conversation, that q&a that I did, we are talking about how we would explain to grandma, grandpa, we love how much you love our kids, I think it's so amazing that you have this relationship with them that you want to give them this cool thing that you thought of them. We're really trying to get away from stuff in our house and move towards experiences. We want to build memories, we want to help them foster some life skills, right. So imagining like the swimming lesson, for example, we want to foster some life skills. And we really want you to be part of those memories. So what we do is we make the connection between Hey, the thing you're giving, you can give and what's even better, it can be the thing that keeps on giving, right that one time gift that is probably going to end up as clutter or use for a very short period of time is much less impactful than the swimming lessons that you can give week after week. And you as the grandparent have the opportunity to follow through right you can be like hey, and it'd be super cool. If you wanted to go watch some lessons or you want to check in maybe live across the country, right? You want to check in and see how the lessons were like be a part of the journey. Sharing those memories, the ups and downs, the overcoming some beers, the pushing the perseverance, we want to make the connection and I have to share it has to be direct. You can't be like we're tired of stuff please stop giving stuff that will never change it. Because we haven't under we haven't identified the underlying problem. The problem that we have to fix is grandma and grandpa want to show love. They want to show love, the way the world tells them that we show love is by buying stuff. That's what the world is telling us. And we're trying to change the what the world saying. And to change what the world is saying, we have to explain it in a way that they hear it, which means you got to be a little bit direct by offering a solution where they will still be able to show love.

Alright, so that was a question I answered yesterday in a live q&a. And that's the kind of stuff send me questions that I can answer live. And I'll give you actionable tools, give you a book recommendation, those kinds of things. So I really look forward to hearing what you want to hear about what ideas or thoughts you're having in terms of questions you need answered. So head on over to my my podcast page, taragratto.ca/podcast. All this information is also in the show notes. So my plan is to do this once a month, the first Monday of every month, I will record an episode answering your questions, so I really can't wait to see what questions you have.

Thanks so much for listening. Be sure to subscribe so you'll be notified when future episodes launch. For information on how to connect with me head to Tara gratto.ca. Or you can find me on Instagram at raising resilient children. Until next time, thanks again for listening to the raising resilient children podcast with Tara Gratto.

 **In this episode I share an example of a question I was asked by Tara Stewart, a Professional Declutter and Home Organization Educator about helping grandparents and extended family with getting on board with buying and giving children less stuff!

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